Some personal insights
Today I got a really useful insight, that I like to share with you guys. It might be useful for you as well..
I went back to that trainer, that I thought was really harsh before.. You might remember, if you read a few stories back.
In the first encounter with him (in a group session) I didn’t feel safe. Because of his hostile and harsh approach. Later I realized that I was also triggered in something myself. So we talked about it. How can you stay calm and open when you feel triggered like that? In your head and your body?
- Feel. How do you feel? How does it make you feel?
I felt tension, insecure, vulnerable, etc.
- Do you allow yourself to feel that way?
Yes I do. I want to feel, be alive in every sense of life.
- Does feeling those feelings bring you closer to yourself or do you prefer to push them away?
I prefer to be closer to myself. So I want to feel all those feelings. Even if it’s difficult.
Second realization. Which I made during that training and was very powerful.
- Life = a play ground. And I can play in the play ground.
This made the whole situation much easier to handle. And it gave me the chance to play, be open. I learned this from Els van Noorduyn when I was younger and played water polo on top level. I saw the matches as play grounds in which I could play.
- Express what you feel. How the situation makes you feel.
That’s what I did with the trainer. It created a bridge between us and created this level of trust. Instead of putting up those walls, I was able to let them down and have an open and honest conversation. Beautiful.
Well, I m not sure if this helps you. But I thought that it was very powerful.
Enjoy the sun! Enjoy your day : )